Live After 40

"For man, as a specie, and unlike other inhabitants of the globe, does not just ravage mindlessly the planet of its bounties in order to survive. He endeavours to leave behind legacies of the application of his mind."
-Rasheed A. Gbadamosi

I turned 40 few months ago, and if statistics are right and I die on or around my 80th birthday, I am halfway done. So, for me, it's half time. And that got me thinking about football, particularly about the half time events in the locker room. The coach usually gathers all the players in the locker room for pep talk. Most of you can, probably, imagine that.

There are two primary things that happen at half time. One is to reflect on what went right and wrong in the first half, and the other is to decide how to proceed in the second half so you come out victorious.

With that in mind, here are some of my reflections on how I am going to play the second half of my life. Looking back at the major lesson life has taught me in the past 40 years, I would say you must have a blueprint for your life and work at it. You need the grace of God, support of your family, friends, mentors etc. You must have total confidence in yourself; you must invest in developing yourself intellectually, have many skills and develop multiple streams of income. That way you will not be found wanting and will also be on the cutting edge of life.

That, I will say, was the first half of my life.

For the second half of my life, having established direction, I intend to continue to stay disciplined in accomplishing my goals. That is a good thing.

Often coaches ask their players to be and stay disciplined and focussed in carrying out the game plan they have developed. So far, the game plan has worked well. Now I need to keep to the game plan and finish well in this second half.

In this second half, I intend to take more risks. Life rewards those who take risks. Don't misunderstand me, I don't mean being risky. Being risky in a game leads to getting your head handed to you by the opposing team, whilst taking well calculated risks lead to big gains.

Furthermore, I will be spending more quality time with my family because my children are getting older and I want to be there for them in their teenage years. I would also like to have some fun. Yes we want to win and stay disciplined, but what good is it if it isn't fun? Not much good at all. So I am going to make sure I am having fun along the way. I would like to take playing golf as a form of relaxation.

In addition, I want to write a best selling book that will inspire people to greatness and sell more than a million copies; be the founder/lead entrepreneur in a company that goes public, and have enough money to run the foundation I set up in 1997 - St. Florence Foundation, in honour of my mother. These goals motivate me to get up every morning to learn, lead, and work.

Finally, I want to build a legacy for this generation and the generation yet unborn. When I get to the end of my life, I would want to have inspired and empowered people to achieve their full potential in life. I want to know that I have done all that I could to make this world a better place, by enhancing the lives of those around me and helping thousands, if not millions, to achieve their full potentials in life. I want to know that I gave everything my best shot. I want it to be on record that I maximized my potential and stretched myself to the limit. I want my wife and children to remember me as a man who left a good legacy.

Those are the things I think about as I sit in my half time locker room of life. Maybe you are there as well. Maybe you are just hitting the first quarter break. Or, maybe you are in the final two minutes! No matter where you are, remember this week that life is short and we must remain diligent in designing and living our lives!

It is therefore imperative to recognise the time we are in at each stage of our lives. This will help us make the most of such times. As for me, it is just half-time and I have just started.

See you at the top!

Dayo Olomu

Does Feminism Leave You Without a Date?!

Are you a working middle aged man who found this title fitting yourself?
If you cannot see your children during the week. Don't worry you are not alone.

A mother that gets goverment benefits will soon find out she is in the same situation as you are, or even worse, when her little son starts disrespecting any authority and ends up in trouble.

A young educated man looking for a job will always be the last to get it cause minorities and women will always come first.

Has today's world become owerpotective and it backfired on all of us?

A costumer called me from Santa Barbara, California and he talked about his college where many females are ashamed to call themselves a female cause the root of the word is male So they use some different kind of spelling which I couldn't hear cause he laughed so hard. But it is not funny at all, it is very sad.

If you just imagine all the policemen, fireman, workers and the most dangerous profession of all soldiers sacrifising themselves ewery hour just to benefit everybody and to make us all live in a safer world you cannot understand where does the hate come from.

It is so omnipresent that it is difficult to see, but the whole western world has become a man hating place and the rest of the world will soon be there also.

Lets analyze: why it happened?

In the past, as long as humans exsisted, women have spent considerable amount of money on making themselves beautiful and have bought designer clothes which, basically, cost a fortune.

Men were huge, unexplored market, escpecially in the 80's when most of young men were bodybuilding in gyms and following their role models of that time:Schwarzenegger and Stallone.

However those men were good enough for the sports industry, actually perfect, but fashinon industry had big looses cause ewery macho man would rather buy a cigar than go to a fancy hair specialist.

So they choose to make new role models for the young men to follow. The new role model spends on his looks the same, or ewen more than the women. In many countries, like Japan, males have lost courage to ewen approach women and they stay at home living with their parents and spendig all their surplus money on fashionable accessories.

That kind of behaviour may not be good for them, but it is definitely good for all the new industires that came in a spree.

If you go out to clubs today you will not see anybody approaching women (if he is sober) and you will see people just checking each other out and doing nothing. Fathers tell to their sons that it was not like that back in the good old days, who knows, all fathers like to exaggerate but it is clear that something is not right today cause men have become less of a man and now they are called metrosexuals.

When Bill Clinton, by many the best president in history, cheats on his wife he is questioned in front of the whole world. Twenty years ago, while cold war was still present everywhere the media favoured strong, playboy men and now the dice has changed and is in another extreme.


Tips For Curing Premature Ejaculation

Sexual Health Advisor

In my line of work, I often get asked by people what my most frequently asked question is.
This is easy -- it is by far "How do I solve my premature ejaculation problems?" This week, we will look at ways to cure this problem that plagues many men.

According to University of Chicago sociologist Edward Laumann, lead author of a comprehensive new US sex study, 31% of men and 43% of women suffer from some form of sexual dysfunction.

The study, published last year in the Journal of the American Medical Association, was based on data from the 1992 National Health and Social Life Survey, a collection of interviews with 1,749 women and 1,410 men aged 18 to 59.

One-third of men said they had recurring problems with climaxing too early, 14 percent said they had no interest in sex and 8 percent said they regularly experienced no pleasure from sex.

Women, on the other hand, were a different story. A third said they regularly didn't want sex, 26 percent said they regularly didn't reach orgasm and 23 percent said sex was not pleasurable.

In both sexes, these problems were attributed to emotional and stress problems including poor health, poor quality of life and prior traumatic sexual experiences.

Although premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction, it is very difficult for men to discuss. A man who can't get it up or keep it up, understandably feels like less of a man. However, it should not be this way. If more men were willing to talk about their problem, it would be easier to accept, knowing that they are not alone.

Often, men are not sure what is considered premature ejaculation. The average male takes less than 3 minutes from the time of insertion till he ejaculates.

According to the technical definition, it is ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes, or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner. This usually leads to the loss of a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated sexual tension.

Although the complaint is usually stated in terms of time, this is because it is the only way to measure and compare. The issue, however, is really about control of the ejaculatory process and releasing when you feel ready. Men are usually more upset about the lack of a vote or influence over when they ejaculate.

One man might feel proud to last ten minutes, while this may be too short for another. Like the saying goes, one man's trash is another man's treasure.

From the point of view of reproduction, early release is not a major problem. Lasting longer in bed serves no known genetic function. It is something that we must learn to do, as opposed to being innate.

First, one must understand what is happening to his body when he ejaculates. Orgasm consists of two stages. The first begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis. This contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra.

The second phase occurs when the pelvic muscle contracts strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure. Men should be aware that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm and vice versa.

The good news is that this is a problem that is highly curable, providing the man is willing to get help and invest the time and effort needed. It is believed that 80-90% of men are able to learn better control through therapy.

The first step to lasting longer is to become familiar with one's self. Be comfortable with your body, its sensations and the feelings leading up to orgasm. You should learn and be able to predict when the orgasm will occur. This will prevent it from creeping up on you and taking you by surprise. This will also help you do what is necessary to prevent you from reaching that "point of no return." Next >>

The "stop and start" method involves bringing yourself just before the point of no return, and stopping all movement before it is too late. When the urgency to ejaculate subsides, start thrusting again, and repeat several times.

This can also be practiced using your partner's hand, mouth or even by yourself. It may require some trial and error, as you may pass that point accidentally.

breathe in, breathe out

Many people are not aware of it, but proper breathing can help develop ejaculatory control. This is because taking a few deep breaths can help you relax and calm the arousal and tension that leads to quick ejaculations. Practice deep, easy, relaxed breathing and relax your entire body.

Communication is another key to long-lasting sex. Let your partner know when you are getting close and what you can and cannot handle. This will involve the use of actual words, since non-verbal cues are easily misunderstood. "Stop," "Hold it," "Start," and "More," are obvious choices and anything else that's short and clear, is acceptable.

Other causes of premature ejaculation are anxiety, fear or discomfort with your partner. Premature ejaculation is less likely to occur if the couple knows each other well; feels comfortable with one another; both partners are consenting; in a comfortable, relaxed and private setting; and after contraception issues have been discussed.

Many men can also last longer the second time around, so perhaps this can be incorporated into your love-making. If round one is short, please her with some extended foreplay using your mouth, or with an erotic massage during half-time until your soldier is ready for battle once again.

dream cream

Desensitizing creams lessen the sensations felt by men during intercourse so that they can last longer. The problem that many men feel is that these creams make intercourse less pleasurable due to the decreased stimulation.

Condoms reduce the amount of stimulation experienced during sex. Many men find that a condom makes them last longer because of the decreased stimulation. As you all know, condoms provide the best protection against STDs and pregnancy, so they have added benefits.

The position of lovemaking may also affect a man's ability to last in bed. The 'missionary' position, with the man on top, is not the best position while attempting to control ejaculation. All men, however, are different and some men find it harder to hold themselves when their partner is in control.

Experiment and vary the positions according to what allows you to control yourself better.

pump it up!

Finally, strong, well developed pelvic muscles will allow you better control and make you more aware of what is happening in your nether regions. Pelvic floor muscles are the ones used to stop and start urination. Hold the muscles for three seconds, relax for three seconds, and repeat ten times.

You can do this at anytime and in anyplace. Eventually, you should be able to work your way up to 100 ten-second contractions per day.

Premature ejaculation can be easily countered with patience, effort and knowledge. Informing yourself is the first step, and once you know about the problem, you are halfway there. Overcoming the mental and physical aspects of this problems are also much easier if both partners are involved, aware of the situation and open to discuss it.

Once again, communication will be your strongest asset. Good luck to you all.
-By D.Zimmer - Sex Book Guide & CD


Sexy Holiday Hair Style: Look Perfect in Summer

First we see the hairstyles on the runway. Then your stylist sports the latest look. Finally, it is your turn to determine what to do with your hair over the summer.

One thing we all want to conquer is frizz and fly aways. One thing I'd like to stay away from is the standard pony tail.

I need a cool hair style on these hot summer days.

According to hair's most fashionable website, Focus on Style, there are some new looks this summer. Yet, some of the traditional summer dos are hanging on, as well.

Braids are among the popular styles seen on the runways. Among them are the Goddess Braid and the Braided Updo. To be honest, the Braided Updo is reminiscent of Star War's Princes Leigha. There is a big difference, however. The braids are not wound up tight close to the head like Princess Leigha's cinnamon bun braids. They are brought up into the back and sides of the hair hanging more loosely. Braided Updos featured in Focus on Style emphasize a draping effect. They sweep around the back of the hairline and keep long, hot hair off of your neck.

The Goddess Braid is a large braid that runs across the front of the hairline. According to Focus on Style, the braid may then run behind the ears, or even farther back around the head. It may be composed of one long braid, or several small ones. Its effect is that of a braided crown, thus the name Goddess Braid. In addition to looking sleek, stylish, and sexy, the Goddess Braid keeps pesky hair out of your eyes in the summer time. Braided hair gives you more freedom and fewer frizzes to worry about during the summer.

Traditional pulled back hairstyles are also fashionable for the summer. Sleek, smooth lines look fashion forward with a sexy summer dress. I've always viewed sleek, taut hair as a sign of confidence. A beautiful woman is not afraid to show off her face by pulling back the hair. All of the drama is then left to her natural features and a little make-up.

What Focus on Style calls "the girl next door" look is the means by which school girls have pulled up errant pieces of hair, and kept them out of their faces for years. There are half pulled back, usually with hair pins. This is a popular style among some celebrities this season, according to celebrity trend on-line magazine nzgirl . There were also traditional ponies, pulled back gently with wisps of hair accenting the face.

Many of the styles in Focus on Style featured clipped or pinned hair with fullness and waves. Any variation on this theme creates a glamorous look for summertime. This is a perfect hair style to wear out to dinner, in your black party dress, or out with the girls at the local club.

Fuller Lips Without Injections or Surgery to make him Drool?

Once again, very full lips are one of the most sought after "assets", thanks in large part to a very popular and sexy actress that seems to appeal to both men and women. Plastic surgeons say the most often requested lips they would like to imitate are Angelina Jolie's. And who can blame them? You can't deny the sensuality and femininity of a full pair of lips. Lips that are fuller can really balance out the face, and add to the attractiveness and symmetry of the overall facial structure. Full, soft looking lips seem to compliment and soften any woman's face and bring out their most feminine, sensual and sultry features.

You may be one of the lucky women who has been blessed with a perfectly pouty and full smile, but if you're reading this article you are probably seeking to enlarge, enhance, or otherwise increase the volume and fullness of your lips. But who really has the money or inclination to go have a costly, and many times painful, procedure performed which may not even produce permanent results? Not to mention, most of these procedures are, in fact, not permanent, and do require recurring visits every six months.

This can really add up, and the results may not even be as natural as you desire. So the question is, if you want fuller, larger, sexier lips, what are your nonsurgical choices, if any that are safe AND effective?

It seems like every day a new cosmetics company is popping up on the internet claiming to have the one lip enlargement product that really works. How are you to tell which of these lip enhancement products really lives up to it's claims? We all know that most of them probably are just a waste of good money. Most lip enlargement creams, gels and glosses work by actually irritating the outer layer of cells, causing it to swell slightly and turn a deeper color. Other lip enhancers use light reflection through high shine or gloss to trick the eye and make the lips appear fuller. Most of these do not result in any truly noticeable difference to the naked eye, and do not last more than one hour.

There are a few products that have been shown to help increase moisture and volume over time with repeated use. Do not expect a dramatic increase by the use of these products alone though. The best, most dramatic natural lip enlargement can be achieved through combining the use a quality topical lip product along with a lip enlargement pump. A lip enlargement pump is a small hand-held device that gently suctions the lips outward, pulling fliud in to the lips and creating a dramatically fuller set of lips for a few hours at a time. They are inexpensive, and you only need to buy it once and you're done. I do however recommend you purchase a few so you have one for home and one for on the road. The best part about this device is that, over time and with regular use, you will notice your lip size really has increased, even after the initial effect of lip "plumping" has worn off.

One word of caution though, if the pump is used for too long with each individual treatment, or the suction is too vigorous and severe, it will cause your lips to bruise. So start slow, and be sure you are not in discomfort as this is a sign the lips may bruise. Be cautious and mindful of this, and stick to the recommended treatment times. If the suction is too much, reduce the pressure by releasing the nozzle until it is a comfortable "tugging" sensation. This device is truly a great way to achieve a dramatic increase in lip size, and is a great "special occasion" beauty tool. It is a Hollywood standby for photo shoots and a favorite trick of models and actresses to get the lips extra plump and full.

Another tip for maintaining moisture and fullness of the lips, besides using a good lip enhancer and a lip pump (if so desired for dramatic effects), is to keep you body hydrated. Be sure to drink plenty of water at all times, and be sure to apply your lip product whenever it wears off. Keeping the lips hydrated is part of the trick to keeping them as full and flushed as possible, so they stand out, instead of blending in with the rest of your face. Avoid dehydrating ingredients such as mint and camphor.

Here's an interesting fact: Did you know that your lips actually get fuller during the times of your monthly cycle when estrogen levels are elevated? You may have thought you were imagining that your lips are fuller during certain times of the month - but you weren't!

So, now you know that you really can achieve fuller lips without the surgery and injections. As long as you are dilligent in administering the treatments as recommended, and choose the best products, you are on your way to a perfectly full, soft set of lips!


Does Feminism Leave You Without a Date?!

Are you a working middle aged man who found this title fitting yourself?
If you cannot see your children during the week. Don't worry you are not alone.

A mother that gets goverment benefits will soon find out she is in the same situation as you are, or even worse, when her little son starts disrespecting any authority and ends up in trouble.

A young educated man looking for a job will always be the last to get it cause minorities and women will always come first.

Has today's world become owerpotective and it backfired on all of us?

A costumer called me from Santa Barbara, California and he talked about his college where many females are ashamed to call themselves a female cause the root of the word is male So they use some different kind of spelling which I couldn't hear cause he laughed so hard. But it is not funny at all, it is very sad.

If you just imagine all the policemen, fireman, workers and the most dangerous profession of all soldiers sacrifising themselves ewery hour just to benefit everybody and to make us all live in a safer world you cannot understand where does the hate come from.

It is so omnipresent that it is difficult to see, but the whole western world has become a man hating place and the rest of the world will soon be there also.

Lets analyze: why it happened?

In the past, as long as humans exsisted, women have spent considerable amount of money on making themselves beautiful and have bought designer clothes which, basically, cost a fortune.

Men were huge, unexplored market, escpecially in the 80's when most of young men were bodybuilding in gyms and following their role models of that time:Schwarzenegger and Stallone.

However those men were good enough for the sports industry, actually perfect, but fashinon industry had big looses cause ewery macho man would rather buy a cigar than go to a fancy hair specialist.

So they choose to make new role models for the young men to follow. The new role model spends on his looks the same, or ewen more than the women. In many countries, like Japan, males have lost courage to ewen approach women and they stay at home living with their parents and spendig all their surplus money on fashionable accessories.

That kind of behaviour may not be good for them, but it is definitely good for all the new industires that came in a spree.

If you go out to clubs today you will not see anybody approaching women (if he is sober) and you will see people just checking each other out and doing nothing. Fathers tell to their sons that it was not like that back in the good old days, who knows, all fathers like to exaggerate but it is clear that something is not right today cause men have become less of a man and now they are called metrosexuals.

When Bill Clinton, by many the best president in history, cheats on his wife he is questioned in front of the whole world. Twenty years ago, while cold war was still presnet ewerywhere the media favoured strong, playboy men and now the dice has changed and is in another extreme.


PornoTube Fresh Milk Anyone?

Breast milk usually refers to the milk produced by a human female which is usually fed to infants by breastfeeding. It provides the primary source of nutrition for newborns, before they are able to digest more diverse foods.

Under the influence of the hormones prolactin and oxytocin, women produce milk after pregnancy to feed their baby. The initial milk produced is often referred to as colostrum, which is high in the immunoglobulin IgA, which coats the gastrointestinal tract. This helps to protect the newborn until its own immune system is functioning properly along with creating a mild laxative effect, expelling meconium and helping to prevent the build up of bilirubin (a contributory factor in jaundice).

The exact integrated properties of breast milk are not entirely understood, but the nutrient content after this period is relatively consistent and draws its ingredients from the mother’s food supply. If that supply is found lacking, content is obtained from the mother’s bodily stores. The exact composition of breast milk varies from day to day, depending on food consumption and environment, meaning that the ratio of water to fat fluctuates. Foremilk, the milk released at the beginning of a feed, is watery, low in fat and high in carbohydrates relative to the creamier hindmilk which is released as the feed progresses. The breast can never be truly “emptied” since milk production is a continuous biological process.

Though now it is almost universally prescribed, in the 1950s the practice of breastfeeding went through a period where it was out of vogue and the use of infant formula was considered superior to breast milk.

However, today it is now recognized that there is no commercial formula that can equal breast milk. In addition to the appropriate amounts of carbohydrate, protein and fat, breast milk also provides vitamins, minerals, digestive enzymes and hormones - all of the things that a growing infant will require. Breast milk also contains valuable antibodies from the mother that may help the baby to resist infections.

Women who are breastfeeding should consult with their physician regarding things that can be unwittingly passed to the infant via breast milk, such as alcohol, viruses (HIV or HTLV-1) or medications.

If a woman is unable to breastfeed her child for any reason, then a suitable commerically prepared formula must be found. Cow’s milk should never be used as a substitute until the infant is 1 year old. Introducing cow milk to an infant’s diet any earlier may lead to allergies to dairy products.

All mammal species produce milk, but the composition of milk for each species varies widely and other kinds of milk are often very different from human breast milk.

Whole cow’s milk does not contain sufficient Vitamin E, iron, or essential fatty acids, which can make infants fed on cow’s milk anemic. Whole cow’s milk also contains excessive amounts of protein, sodium, and potassium which may put a strain on an infant’s immature kidneys. In addition, the protein and fat in whole cow’s milk are more difficult for an infant to digest and absorb than breast milk. Evaporated milk may be easier to digest due to the processing of the protein but is still nutritionally inadequate. A significant minority of infants are intolerant of lactose or allergic to one or more of the consitituents of cow’s milk. These problems can also affect formula milk derived from cow’s milk.

Goat’s milk does not contain agglutinin, which means that the fat globules in goat’s milk do not cluster together like they do in cow’s milk, which makes goat’s milk easier for an infant to digest. Goat’s milk also does not contain many of the allergens found in cow’s milk. However, like cow’s milk, goat’s milk is also unsuitable for infants as it can cause intestinal irritation and anemia

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What is ur Style of Sex !?

Sex style Kama Sutra
There are 3 basic sex styles. Sex in a marriage is an important factor. Sex relieves you of all tension and a marriage with good sex is healthier and lasts longer. But every person has his own style of sex and feels aroused and satisfied when they try out their sexual pattern. But at one stage sex becomes very monotonous and then you do need some variety. In this article we have brought for you the three basic sex styles and what you should do to spice up your sex life if you get bored of it. The recipe for a great marriage is having an equal balance of the three.

Couples who are very busy and don't get time to make love at ease basically adopt this style of sex. They are ideal for those marriages in which the man has a higher sexual requirement and urge than the woman. Quickies are perfect for a heated and steamy sexual encounter and bring in the passion and excitement in to the marriage. As a relationship enhancer, quickies can't be topped; men love them, and it brings back life into your marriage. However it wanes off over the period of time. Men always love it but for women quickie becomes frustrating coz it is not satisfying and they ultimately feel cheated.

If thus you have reached the stage where you no longer enjoy quickie and feel resentful because your husband reaches climax every time he has sex and you have an orgasm maybe once in 6 times then its time you did something about it. You can approach your husband and be frank about it. Tell him that it doesn't work any more and that a longer session makes you feel sexier and more turned on. If you cant be so frank then try to find a way where it will be able for the two of you to give more time to one another and enjoy sex for a longer time. Prepare a bath for him, give him good body massage and then make love the whole night… just have to buy time then from your busy schedule.

Comfort Sex
Comfort sex is the binding factor in a relationship. When two people loves one another and know each other's body, moods and passion spots then comfort sex is fun. Thus this kind of sex is possible only when two people know each other. This kind of sex is more loving and caring than just trying to reach an orgasm and being satisfied. This is caressing the partners mind than body. It's not about athletic prowess or numbers of orgasms, but rather about the bonds of time, experience, and intimacy you and your husband share.

But mind you too much comfort sex is boring and it can be killing for the sexual relationship. If you feel that you are having only comfort sex then its high time that you had a steamy and passionate sexual encounter with your partner to bring the passion back into your marriage. Thus plan a date with your husband after the kids are off to bed. Wear something you feel sexy in and light some candles. Have a candlelight dinner and make love on the kitchen table. This change in circumstances inevitably will lead to a change in sexual experience and your relationship.

Passionate Sex
This kind of sex is basically done in the heat of the moment without thinking about the place and occasion. You are aroused and all that you need is to satisfy yourself. It can also be termed as special occasion sex since couples go out on a vacation specially to get the passionate sex back into their life. Special-occasion sex is the thing that breaks up the monotony and gives you the chance to fall in love again and also reminds you that you have been a hot couple. The other kind of passionate sex is to experiment and find out new kinds of mind-blowing sex. In exploring and experimenting, you might discover something that really feels wonderful, and suddenly the sex is something you crave for every moment and at all times. Maybe it's a new position or some sensual music that pushes you over the edge. The only way to find what turns both of you on is through trial and error. To have passionate sex when you have loads of work and kids to take care of is an almost impossible thought but you have to work towards it. Small acts of sexual passion and urges will be very helpful to ignite the passion in both of you. Thus to have passionate sex you should have variety in your sex life. And pretty soon, you'll realize that variety really is the spice of a great sex life, and that marriage can be so full of fun and excitement.

What Men should Do after Sex..

Satisfy Woman
It is obvious that after having an eventful love making session, men are tired and normally want to rest but before that it is very important that you show a little love and care towards your partner. After a wonderful lovemaking session be sure that you do the following so that your woman feels special. These suggestions can make a world of difference for women.

Clean her up
Those who are monogamous involved in a monogamous relationship, condoms are not much liked and they normally go in for the withdrawal method. If you are one of them then it will be a good thing that, after you have released your liquid onto her body, spend some time cleaning her up. This not only shows that you care but your woman will also like to have you touch her after the sexual performance. Take a towel and slowly wipe her body starting from her neck and move across to either shoulder; gently go over her breasts, stomach and hips.

Tidy up
If you have had one of those storming adventurous wild sex session and made love to her on the sofa or the kitchen table, then do help her tidy up after the mess. Also if you have used a condom, don’t throw it on the floor but dispose of the condom as quickly as possible. After you are done take her in your arms and lie down for a while.

Take a shower together
This is the most romantic thing to do after a sweaty session of love making. In the shower, let her scrub your back, shoulders and neck (among other things), and then you can do the same for her. And who knows you might just end up doing a round two.

Talk sex
There is no better time to communicate with one another than after a mutually gratifying sexual experience. Discuss all the things you enjoyed and found arousing and don’t talk about any negative aspects of the sexual encounter. Be attentive to your partner's likes so that you are sure to please her the next time around.

Touch therapy
Get cozy and rub her back lightly while you talk to each other. This not only helps her relax but your woman will feel very secure and wanted. You could even rub her thighs, since they'll probably be shaking after that momentous orgasm you just gave her. Remember giving her some special post-sex treatment will always work to your advantage.


Ladies, Do You Want To Feel Sexy?

Sometime, things just get so darn boring. It makes you see life like a 1950s movie without a touch of color to brighten up the day. But if you thought that there's no way you can perk up, think again.

Resort to some things that will cheer you up, boost your confidence, and eventually make a life that is full of life!

For ladies out there, you may opt for a sexy bra instead of the usual types of brasseries that you have. Most fashion experts contend that wearing sexy things like a sexy bra will definitely make you feel sexy.

However, the big question is: what makes a sexy bra? Is it the material, the design, the color, or the person who is wearing it?

Some of you might prefer to answer with the latter choice in mind. But nevertheless, sexy bra is still a bra and needs a little more positive characteristics to give you the support and comfort that you need.

So, when choosing a sexy bra, it is still important to consider these following pointers so that you'll not only feel sexy but confident and comfortable as well.

1. When you want to show some flesh and your sexy bra might just do the job for you, consider the color of your tops and your sexy bra as well. Do not show beige sexy bra straps under spaghetti-strap tops.

2. Do not wear plastic strap sexy bras with halter-tops. It will not be a pretty sight even if you are wearing a sexy bra.

3. A single hook looks very neat, but it is not practical for fuller busts. A fastening with two or three hooks is much comfortable and supportive even during some hot steamy nights.

4. All straps should have adjustable levels fort the hooks to accommodate fluctuation of weight or washing changes. A stretch sexy bra with Lycra will get bigger over time and may not look sexy anymore, so does a sexy bra woven with a firm cotton material.

5. Women often wear sexy bras that are too tight thinking that it will give their breasts that needed lift. This should not be the case. A sexy bra can give you that much needed lift to show off those eye-popping cleavage at the same time fits just right. With this, you do not only look sexy but more confident.

6. Have a wardrobe of sexy bra. Think of the occasion that will call for it. Sexy bra looks good with laces on and looks even great with evening gowns or even with a simple night lingerie. Have fun with it!

7. Remember that if your sexy bra lets your breast bulge above the cup or out of the sides near the armpits, creating lumps under the clothes, then the cups are too small.

8. On the other hand, if the cup material puckers or the breast doesn't entirely fill a molded cup, then it is just too big.

9. Likewise, if your sexy bra rides up in the back and is higher than the front, then the band is too long.

10. A nice, comfy sexy bra should never leave red marks on the skin after it's taken off because it means that your sexy bra is just too small.

11. A colorful, laced sexy bra is a definite turn-on. But remember not to wear then under a white or light-colored shirt. This will not make a good impression on you.

12. Do use a matching halter bra and pull it down with a low-back adaptor. This will definitely make you look sexy and cool.

There you have it! Just follow these simple rules on the dos and donts" of wearing a sexy bra and you'll never have an embarrassing moment. Indeed, a sexy bra partnered with a confident wearer equals a one hot summer night. That is what chemistry is all about!

Bra and Panties Shopping

When it comes time for shopping for intimates like bra and panties, it can be a little embarrassing for some. There are lingerie stores that have a great selection for everyone. The only problem with this is that some women do not like to shop in front of other woman. It can be hard for them to let loose and pick out sexy items like this to wear in private or for someone else. There are so many styles to look at when shopping for bra and panties. You can find soft and sophisticated looks for the more conservative woman and there are others that will knock anyone’s socks off.

There is fun and exciting looks that will make any woman feel great in and have any man begging for mercy. There are colors like white, black, red and even fun and bold patterns to choose from.

There are wild animal prints and even soft pastel designs to feel attractive in. No matter what mood a woman is in, they will be able to match it with their bra and panties that they are wearing underneath.

Giving a great, set of bra and panties for wedding shower gift is a great idea. You will get a lot of fun by giving one of these hot and exciting sets to a future bride. She will get a lot of great use out of it and it will get the party off to a great start. Although there are many lingerie stores to shop at, many people prefer to shop online for these bra and panties. Some women feel more comfortable shopping from their own home for these intimate items. When it comes time for a man to buy there special someone a sexy outfit like this, they will also feel more at ease shopping online. It is quick, easy, and very confidential. When shopping online for these things, there is often a great selection to choose from and a range of all sizes. There will be something for everyone and it does not have to be embarrassing. The items are usually shipped within a few days.

Most of the shops online come with a great return policy as well. If something does not fit or look right, a woman can return them full a refund or exchange. It is easy and a lot of fun at the same time. Getting fun and sassy bra and panty sets are always a great way to boost a woman’s self esteem.

It is always a good way to put a little excitement into a relationship. It will be some thing that both partners can benefit from. It will add some flair and fun to the relationship and put the heat back it where it belongs.

Fashion Bikinis

One would definitely want to dazzle the vast crowd on the beach in a striking and attractive bikini. The raging trends of bikinis now available are mostly inspired from movies. Most of the bikinis come in prints of stripes, floral or patterns of checks. The colors are mostly black but colors like blue, white and purples are in vogue too. The embellishments include smocks, laces, stones, beads, crystals and sometimes embroidery.

Bikinis now with their steady development in its varied styles are much in fashion today. Bikinis can be termed as the father of fashion swimwear. They become skimpier as days go by. They are styled in such a way to enhance the curves. An interesting innovation of the bikini is the tankini. It is more of a bikini that has a sporty style to it. A tankini has a longer bikini top thereby only exposing a little of the tummy.

Another variation of the bikini is the bandini, which has a strip of straight cloth for the top. A bikini with a top in the form o f a camisole is called a camikini. Another deviation from the regular bikini is the maillot, which is of one piece. They are one shouldered and are halter necked. With the wide variety in the styles of the bikini one can dazzle the crowd in a sizzling style that one desires. Some of the eye-catching styles would be a bikini with aqua prints. For a softer and sober look go in for bikinis in pastel shades and for a fun loving look choose tropical prints with details either in beads or stones. For a hot look go in for bikinis in a fiery red color or velvet bikinis with details on them. For a bolder look bikinis in bold stripes and checks or loud patterns. One can even get the bikini bottoms hold together with beads, laces, strings, bows or rings.

Bikinis of lace are available with strings that can be adjusted to fit better. Such a bikini is ideal for a full-figured woman. Animal printed bikinis can turn everyone’s eye toward you.

It is hard to believe the vast number of things one can do with so little cloth to bring out the glory in a woman’s body. Whether one wants to sizzle or if one wants to stay plain there are fashion bikinis to enhance the feminine beauty (and his feelings for you).


This is a must list for everyone having sex

beautiful kissTo have some new experience in bed, first of all take some efforts to learn at least three different sex positions. If your girl seems to be tired of observing the ceiling pattern then ask her lie on the belly.

Act a smiling masseuse. Take some cool cream, put on a charming smile and it guarantees that your girl will become flexible to your caresses.

If you see your girl’s skin turns rose when having sex, it is a sure sign that she really enjoys what you do and reaches an orgasm. Be careful, rose skin may also indicate that a girl is allergic or too shy.

The revolutionary relief condom is the thing that everyone must try! These things are unlikely to give new sensations to men while women are sure to experience something new with them. What is more, relief condoms can even prolong the sweet process.

Some men say that that the idea of group sex sounds really attractive for them. Suggest that your girl’s female friend or your male friend may join your sex games, and if she agrees all of you will have new entertaining experience.

When feeling that sex has become boring, have a close look at the bedroom. Put the place in order! Immediately remove your girl’s long-sleeves night gown and a collection of stuffed toys. Something must be wrong with a woman who hugs stuffed animals in bed. Unless you act a male teacher and a school-girl during your sex games.

Sex experts insist that masturbating together guarantees that both partners will learn more about each other, establish a close psychological contact and improve their sexual life. Indeed, masturbating together gives a wonderful opportunity to know how a partner likes to be caressed.

It is an open secret that women love midday sex when their extremely busy, already awaken, slightly strange and energetic men drop in just for a couple of minutes to have quick sex. By the way, quick sex is very stimulating, especially for women.

Men say it is a really thrilling experience for them to have a photo session of their naked women. Certainly, when a man himself is the photographer. Polaroid suits perfectly well for this case: the result is instantaneous and no need to take the negatives to a photo lab.

It is still a disputable issue whether a synchronous orgasm with your partner is really exciting or not. In fact, this gives no additional sensations to partners, but still it is pleasant to feel both of you are reaching an orgasm together. In other words, it is worth trying people say.

Do you believe your friends when they say they have already had sex in elevators, on roofs, in a car, on a bench in a public park, in WC on board of a plane or somewhere else? Have you already tried at least something of the list or just feel envious of those who tell such stories?

Women’s underwear is much nicer than men’s, and girls state the love wearing it. Men, do try your girls’ lacy panties and stockings and you may have new experience also. Don’t your feel curious to know how it feels to have thin lacy things on?

Another entertainment that may make your sex activity livelier is petting in public places, cinemas, theatres and restaurants, in other words everywhere where immediate sex is impossible. Men may concentrate on any intimate part of their partners’ bodies they can reach – legs, hands or even the tongue – with the purpose of reaching an orgasm. Certainly, this must be concealed from others.

And finally, a very important must-do in sex is to confess love to your partner. This must be done free and easy, a very hard task with which only a real man can cope. If you feel that you will only mumble instead of pronouncing the love confession, then have some practice with a mirror.


Read your Girl's assets!!

You can know your woman from the shape of her mammary glands

Rules of Flirting....

Frankly speaking flirting is an art and you need special skills to master it. You do not have to be some beauty queen or a celebrity to make guys fall for you and go gaga over you. All you need is your gorgeous smile and few guaranteed flirting tips like the ones you'll find below to attract the opposite sex.

Rule 1 # Eyes have it all:

Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Please don't stare at him and make him feel embarrassed. Just give him a soft smoldering look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. This way you will make him know that you are interested and approachable.

Rule 2 # Smile:

Smiling is absolutely the most effective tool in your flirting toolbox. Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile.

Rule 3 # Expose your neck:

One of the most winning flirting techniques a woman can use is the exposure of her neck. This can be done with a head tilt to one side, the classic hair flip or the over-the-shoulder glance. According to body language experts this asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes your neck, and makes a woman very attractive and sexy. The over-the-shoulder move also sends a signal to your target that he is worth a second look.

Rule 4 # Lip Service:

Both men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Always wear a red lipstick which not only gives your lips that youthful colour, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth whiter. A super-shiny lip gloss can also give you an advantage, making your lips look moist and kissable.

Rule 5 # Focus, Focus, Focus:

Once you and your flirting target have started talking, use these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as you are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what he is saying. If you aren't listening then that shows that you are not interested. Smiling and laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put another person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another effective flirting technique is low-level touching such as brushing the shoulder or elbow.

"We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them". -- Mother Teresa

Never take some one for granted,Hold every person Close to your Heart because you might wake up one day and realise that you have lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones."


Talk Me into Bed

Dropping just a few simple phrases will make you stand out from the crowd and make her want to take you someplace quiet where you can talk.

Don’t compliment her on her sexual features at least not until she unveils them.

You know who gets a woman into bed on the first date? A guy who says all the right things. But what exactly are those things? And why isn’t I drive a Beemer on the list?

The fact is, a man who can subtly trigger our mating instinct by revealing himself to be the kind of guy we’d like to mate with is a man who’s just greatly enhanced his chances of waltzing us into the sack. And bragging about your job or your ride isn’t the way to do it. That’s too bold and self-aggrandizing. No, what will really melt her heart (and her panties) are words and phrases that strike her on an almost Darwinian level.

Don’t take it from me. Geoffrey Miller, a cognitive psychologist and the author of The Mating Mind, says there is evolutionary evidence of why we fall for the sappy crap you guys dole out. Like how we melt when you say you love cats. Heck, you don’t even have to love them; just saying you don’t mind them can promote you from putz to prospect in a matter of seconds. Tell a girl that you like warm, fuzzy, ear-nuzzling creatures and she’ll translate that into the fact that you are a warm, fuzzy, ear-nuzzling creature. And after you’ve moved on to the sordid tale of the time you and your buddies streaked through a state fair wearing nothing but socks on your johnsons, she’ll still be imagining you, her, and a fur ball doing some heavy petting in a Downy-soft bed.

Courtship is how women size men up in a sexual-selection process, the same way our ancestors did, says Miller. They want to find one who displays the traits they’re looking for in a mate. Try putting some of these phrases on display during your next date and she’ll be purring all the way back to your place.

‘I cried like a baby.’
These five words say worlds about you symbolically: not only that you’ve used your tear ducts on at least one occasion, but that you’re comfortable enough with your masculinity to gush forth with such a fountain of feelings. Miller believes that you earn extra points if your tears are emotional (from watching The Champ) rather than pain-related (from getting the crap beat out of you in college). Women want to see that you have the emotional capability to sympathize, which is crucial in relationships, says Miller. Especially if it’s for someone you’re not even related to, like a fictional character in a movie. Never mind that if you dump us like yesterday’s pork fat, we’ll tell everyone that you are a big baby.

‘You’ve got the most gorgeous eyes/beautiful collarbone/ amazing laugh.’
Rather than telling the woman you’re with that she looks great, compliment something unique about her. This, by the way, works best when expressed in a revelatory tone, as in, Wow, I hadn’t really noticed until the light hit your face in that certain way or until I saw you smile from across the room. Steer clear of features that get Hooters girls hired, like her breasts, butt, legs, and lips (or at least save those compliments for later, when she’s stripping down and wants you to notice all of her 2,000 sexy parts).

Complimenting a woman on her primarily sexual features is a powerful way of saying you’re not in it for the long term, explains Miller. And while you may not be in it for the long term, I’d suggest you keep that to yourself for the short term.

‘Some jackass was trying to start a fight with me.’
While every woman has had a fantasy about two men fighting to the death over her, in the real world of supermarkets and sports bars, we don’t like men who fight. A hundred thousand years ago, our ancestors wanted men who could maintain peace to keep their children out of danger, says Miller. This is the same way dominant male chimpanzees act: like policemen who break up fights rather than start them. So don’t think you’re impressing us with your tough-guy speeches. We’d much rather hug the big hairy ape who can calm those ready-to-rumble types down.

‘It was for charity.’
It’s no big deal, you tell us. You don’t feed the homeless in soup kitchens or run the bingo game at the nursing home or anything like that. But, yeah, you did run a 5K for cancer last month. And that new painting in your apartment? Well sure, you bought it at an Art for AIDS auction. Women don’t want to date telethon hosts, but we’d love to hear that every so often you do something that benefits a greater good, however inadvertently. Our species evolved to be incredibly altruistic because our ancestors were into mates who displayed traits of sympathy and kindness toward others, says Miller. What woman doesn’t want a man who spends time on things that don’t somehow serve to make him money, earn him more leisure time, or get him into a girl’s pants? Well, not directly, anyway.

‘I’m going home tomorrow to help my mom install her new computer.’
Can’t go for lunch on Saturday? Oh. Can’t go because you promised your mom you’d drive her to IKEA and then assemble her new three-tier portable bookshelf? Oh! It warms a woman’s heart to hear that a guy is happy to spend time with his family. Getting along with one’s family is key in the sexual-selection process, says Miller. Think about it: You can’t choose your family. And because our family members are often not people we would have chosen as our friends if we weren’t related, being close with his family indicates that a man can adapt socially to other people he can’t choose like his in-laws. Not to mention that we’re thinking if all goes well, we might be spending time with your family, too.

‘I like to cook.’
I have a domestic fantasy: A handsome man, shirtsleeves rolled up to his elbows, is in my kitchen, washing my dishes. That’s it. The plain sight of a man in the kitchen with a purpose. And if cooking is that purpose, all the better.

You don’t even have to be good at it. If you’re whistling while you pour pancake batter into the shape of silver dollars, women don’t care that you can’t make crepes: Dating you would bring us that much closer to living out one of those scenes in a J. Crew catalog, where barefoot men in log cabins crack eggs into cast-iron frying pans. Culturally, this implies that a man doesn’t allocate traditional gender roles he’s not going to come home from work and ask, ‘Where’s my dinner?’ Miller explains. Women find it attractive that a man will share home responsibilities. Which reminds me of the fantasy I have in which a man is folding my laundry.

‘I’m taking vacation next week.’
You’ll do whatever it takes to get ahead in your job, you love jetting around the world for business meetings, and you plan on being a CEO by 35. Sounds great to a PalmPilot. Women want men who love their jobs, but trust me when I tell you that no woman wants a workaholic. So if you tell her you work to live rather than live to work she’ll sigh with more relief than a metope on the Parthenon. When a woman selects a mate, she ideally looks for a man she can raise a family with, and she wants to know that he’ll be there for it, too, says Miller, who suggests talking to her about the vacations you want to take. Talking about time off, he says, is a good sign that you take time off. Plus, talk about the warm sand and the tropical breezes you’re looking forward to and she’ll wonder if you might not want a travel companion.

‘I was taking care of my niece the other day’
Drip drip drip Not just the sound of David Schwimmer being himself but also the sound of a woman’s heart melting at the thought of a man tying a two-year-old’s sneakers. When our ancestors chose sexual companions, they were also choosing fathers for their children, says Miller. It’s still crucial for women to anticipate how interested a man is in childcare, should she ever make a baby with him. While most guys would rather do a shot of Similac than bring up the subject of children, you should know that mentioning your soft spot for kids will just about bust our biological clocks. Throw in the fact that you think little girls are sweeter than boys and we’ll be grinning like the cat that ate the canary.

And we know how much you like cats, right?


sexual healing · oral sex · how to pleasure woman · techniques


So what is this funny cunnilingawhatever word anyways? Cunnlingus is the technical term for oral sex that is performed on a woman. It's a funny thing it is and something that scares a lot of guys away, which doesn't make any sense because if a girl can go down on a guy, he should be more than willing to return the favor. So how exactly does it work you ask? Well...

Remember that this isn't an attack on her. It is a delicate skill that requires patience, practice and dedication to get right, but once you do, will bring any woman to her knees. Remember that there is no right or wrong way, per se, and that everyone is different.

We are going to assume you know what the female genitalia looks like. If you aren't quite sure of the whereabouts of things, check out this diagram. Recognize that women prefer gentler and more rhythmic stimulation than men and an advantage of using the tongue instead of the fingers is that it naturally produces the right amount of pressure and lubrication.

The tongue and lips are obviously the source of most oral stimulation. Teeth have no real use down there at this time. The clitoris is your main area of concentration. You want be careful though and not go after it as in the beginning the clitoris is often to sensitive for direct stimulation. It may also disappear under its hood at some stages of arousal. In this case, the hood and labia should be stimulated to indirectly stimulate the clitoris.

The tongue can be used flat to broadly stroke areas or pointed to tease a small area. Linear, circular or any other imaginable motions can be used. The lips can apply suction, press something between them, or have their wet and outward rolled in surfaces used for broad strokes like the tongue.

You can blow a narrow stream of cool air at a spot or breathe warm air over an entire area. Light teasing and varied stimulation are good for early arousal, but steady rhythmic stimulation is best for bringing your woman to orgasm.

The best advice is to take your time and be patient. Listen to her as you work your magic. Chances are if she begins to moan, she likes what you are doing! Learn her responses and avoid changing stimulation to quickly or too often which will prevent her from getting excited. Also keep in mind that repetitive motion can bore her and lose its effectiveness.


Some Newly-Wed Humor

The bride tells her husband, "Honey, you know I’m a virgin and I don’t know anything about sex. Can you explain it to me first?"

"OK, Sweetheart. Putting it simply, we will call your private place ’the prison’ and call my private thing ’the prisoner’. So what we do is: put the prisoner in the prison.

And then they made love for the first time.

Afterwards, the guy is lying face up on the bed, smiling with satisfaction.

Nudging him, his bride giggles, "Honey the prisoner seems to have escaped."

Turning on his side, he smiles. "Then we will have to re-imprison him."

After the second time they spent, the guy reaches for his cigarettes but the girl, thoroughly enjoying the new experience of making love, gives him a suggestive smile, "Honey, the prisoner is out again!"

The man rises to the occasion, but with the unsteady legs of a recently born foal.

Afterwards, he lays back on the bed, totally exhausted.

She nudges him and says, "Honey, the prisoner escaped again."

Limply turning his head, He YELLS at her, "Hey, its not a life sentence, OKAY!"


Sensual Activities for Couples

Sensual Yet Non-Sexual Activities for Couples

Couple in tub Finding a new love interest often fills us with an unmistakable feeling of bliss, often described as a fluttery feeling in one’s stomach. Ten years gone by and you’ve still got butterflies flitting about? No doubt you are in love!
To give your relationship a nice balance of passionate playtime, consider varying your romantic routine from time to time. Every couple engages in a different style of sexual behavior, but turning things down a notch in the lust department and heating them up on a sensual level can truly re-ignite the spark that initially drew you together.

No matter if your romance has survived the test of time or if it is merely beginning its path down love lane, take the time to pamper your partner, and enjoy some pampering yourself! Consider these options for a romantic, passion-filled evening, and modify them to suit your relationship’s style and your and your partner’s needs.

Spend an evening preparing a romantic dinner together. Set some melodic music to play gently in the background as you prepare food together and indulge in a glass of wine. Relax and take pleasure in the culmination of your combined efforts. Linger at the table until the last drop of wine has kissed your lips and stare deeply into each other’s eyes. Challenge your mate to hold your gaze simply by the intensity caught within your eyes. Share a slice of dessert on the same plate and take the time to feed each other the delicious delight. As your meal concludes, kick off your shoes and hold each other close as you begin to slow dance in the living room.

Treat each other to aromatherapy and full-body massages with essential oils. First decide if you would like to wear your bathing suits, your undergarments, a towel, or less. Select a location such as a comfortable bed, a lounge chair or a nice clean spot on the floor, stretched across a soft blanket. You may choose to play gentle background music or sounds such as ocean or brook soundtracks, or those featuring the wind, rainforests, etc. Be sure to select an aromatic essential oil to massage into your sweetheart’s skin for a soothing and sensual experience.

no spanking Take turns pampering each other and stimulating one another’s muscles by firmly massaging the back, neck, shoulders, arms and even the hands to start. Pay special attention to the lower back, as this area experiences a lot of stress from general daily activities and from being on the job. Work your magic on your partner from head to toe, focusing more energy on the muscles that seem tighter or those that have been neglected. The backs of one’s legs should benefit significantly if massaged properly. You may wish to consult a book on different types of massage before engaging in the full-body massage.

(just a cartoon depicting a No-No) Indulge in a hot bubble bath for two, complete with wine and sweet treats, candlelight and the spark between the two of you. Select a fragrant bubble bath that appeals to both your senses and drift away in a relaxing pool of warm, sudsy water. Gently caress each other’s backs and enjoy the peace and solitude surrounding you. Sip wine or hot tea, indulge in chocolates or small dessert pastries and revel in your stolen moments together. While the dim flicker of the candle sets the mood, the two of you can unwind in the comfort of a warm bath, wrapped in each other’s arms. If you are not yet at the point in your relationship where you feel comfortable taking a bath together, consider a dip in a hot tub under the stars at a bed and breakfast or fancy hotel. Go out for a night on the town in a bustling city and settle down for the evening by relaxing in the lodge’s sauna, swimming pool and whirlpool tub.

No matter what you do with your sweetheart during your passionate evening together, remember to pay special attention to his or her senses. Breathe sweet nothings into an unsuspecting ear, gently brush your fingertips across the arm while talking, trace a trail of soft, sweet kisses across the neck.
Let your heart dictate your every move and enjoy true love in all its bliss!


Drive Him Crazy

Romantic Ideas To Drive Him Crazy

Spice up the mundane routine of your daily life and throw away the same old boring pattern. This will invigorate your love life and keep the flame of romance burning strong again.
Here are some romantic ideas to drive him crazy:

Hire a masseuse to give your partner a professional massage at home.

Mow the lawn in a sexy outfit and make sure he's there to see it!

Send a dozen roses: 11 red roses and 1 white one. The note: "In every bunch there's one who stands out - and you are that one."

Take him on a picnic to a secluded location and wear something with easy access.

Find a four-leaf clover and present it together with this note: "I got lucky when I found you."

Assume a new sexual identity: The naughty librarian, the angry postal worker, or a sensual comfort woman. Let your imagination fly...

Give him a full-body massage and take at least an hour. The more time you spend on him, the better it gets.

Make love on top of the washer/dryer - while it's running.

Be waiting for him in the bathtub when he returns from work.

In the middle of the night, light a candle and run your fingers through his hair until he wakes up.

Take an old bottle of unused medicine capsules. Empty the medicine and insert tiny teeny love notes. The write him a Prescription for Love.

Rent an action film and watch it with him in one of his flannel shirts, socks, and no underwear.

Feed him in bed. I doesn't matter what it is, anything edible will do.

While you are both out, have a friend deliver a gourmet dinner to your home.

Describe a sexual fantasy to him in detail, then ask to try it out.

Listen to a CD that you heard on your first date. If there was no music, then just hum.

Hide a teeny, tiny gift somewhere on your body and make him find it.

Pack his lunch and sneak some nude Polaroids of yourself in the bag.


If you want better sex you're gonna have to Work at it

The fact is, as they are reputed to say up north in the UK, "You don't get owt for nowt in this world" - and for those of you who are linguistically challenged, that simply means you don't get anything for nothing - and generally, they're right.

Certainly they're right when it comes to better sex.

For a start, it's mostly true that the fitter you are, the better the sex will be.
This doesn't mean that women have to be anorexic 18 year-olds, or that men need to look like Sylvester Stallone.
Nevertheless, if you're fit and supple, you'll not only be more likely to find that your lover is sexually attracted to you more readily and more often (or more men/women will fancy you if you don't already have a partner), but you'll find it a lot easier to be adventurous and get into different positions, have more stamina, and be able to keep up when the sex starts getting really athletic. Of course, it won't do your sex-life much good if you spend so much time and energy in the gym that you're too damned tired to screw your lover, but then everything in life should be in moderation, shouldn't it?

The same applies to all aspects of your sex-life and the longer you've been together, the harder it will probably be to get started and stay motivated. It's well worth the effort though.

Nobody should ever have to do anything sexual that they don't want to. That said, when things go stale, it might be time to re-think all your phobias about sex. So you don't like oral... Okay some people don't, but a hell of a lot do. In fact more men and women like it than don't, but they're not always with a partner who does. If you know that your partner likes oral, anal, mile-high, al fresco, S&M, even swinging, or group sex - when your sex-life together has become boring, maybe that's the time you should take a second look at what your partner likes and you've always dismissed without a second thought.

There are many ways to skin a cat (sorry animal lovers, that's just an expression). For instance, if your objection to oral is that it's unclean or unhygienic, then you really should re-examine your ideas. First of all, anyone who doesn't keep him or her self clean is not a very good or caring lover and should be told so and a good way to allay your fears on that score is to bath or shower together and wash each other - and that's pretty sexy on it's own! Unhygienic is crap! In a healthy individual, urine is sterile when it leaves the body, but attracts bacteria very rapidly afterwards, so washing thoroughly will sort the problem out. If you're a woman, perhaps you don't think you'll like the taste of your man's cum. Well, that's crap too, it doesn't have much taste on its own and is likely to be affected by recent pungent foods (such as garlic or curry) or drinking, but you don't have to get ANYTHING in your mouth anyway - you can buy FLAVOURED condoms almost anywhere these days - what does that tell you about how many people indulge in oral? Men tend to be less squeamish. If you're not - LEARN TO BE.

Much the same applies to anal, S&M, outdoor sex, group sex and all the rest. If, when you think about it calmly, your objections are largely born of ignorance of the subject, or you just don't like the thought of it, then, if it's something that will turn your partner on, you should consider giving it a try. You don't have to rush into it head on. To take the example of oral - give his or her bits a kiss or a lick - the first time you do even that, you'll be amazed at the result in your partner and you can build up to there. Alternatively, if your fear is of RECEIVING oral, don't be afraid to say, "Okay, I'll try, but I want to shower first," if you want to be sure you're really clean and, hopefully, that should get rid of some of your inhibitions at least.

Be brave and put EXCITEMENT and FUN back into your sex-life...



01) NOT KISSING FIRST. Avoiding her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones makes her feel like you're paying by the hour and trying to get your money's worth by cutting out non-essentials. A proper passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.

02) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR. Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well, there's a difference between being erotic and blowing as if you're trying to extinguish the candles on your 50th birthday cake. That hurts.

03) NOT SHAVING. You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake repeatedly across your partner's face and thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, it's not passion, it's avoidance.

04) SQUEEZING HER BREAST. Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when they get their hand on a pair. Stroke, caress, and smooth them.

05) BITING HER NIPPLES. Why do men fasten onto a woman's nipples, then clamp down like they're trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are highly sensitive. They can't stand up to chewing. Lick and suck them gently. Flicking your tongue across them is good. Pretending they're a dogie toy isn't.

06) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES. Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between finger and thumb like you're trying to find a radio station in a hilly area. Focus on the whole breasts, not just the exclamation points.

07) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY. A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs: Breastville East and West, and the Midtown Tunnel. There are vast areas of her body which you've ignored far too often as you go bombing straight into downtown Vagina. So start paying them some attention.

08) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED. Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in tangled fingers and underpants. If you're going to be that aggressive, just ask her to take the damn things off.

09) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT. Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, you store it.

10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS. Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along side of the clitoris.

11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK. Women, unlike men, don't pick up where they left off. If you stop, they plummet back to square one very fast. If you can tell she's not there, keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.

12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY. women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked at the waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her like an elegant present, not a kid's toy.

13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY. Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy. Pulling the material up between her thighs and yanking it back and forth is not.